Why I will accept your Linked In invitation!



I came across this article on Linked In from a guy called Michael O’Donnell. It had the title “why I won’t accept your linked in invitation” which is odd, because the guy clearly will accept most people who reach out to him in a responsible way. Have a read of the article…


I get about five or six requests to connect with people on Linkedin every day. I consider each and every request in the spirit I hope others will consider my requests to connect with them. I use to accept invitations only from those I know — or at least have met in person. I abandoned that policy because I myself have requested to connect with people on Linkedin that I do not know and have not met, because I think there is a basis for mutual interest. It only seems fair that I should thoughtfully consider requests from people whom i do not know (yet).

I review the profiles of each person who invites me to connect. I generally accept invitations that are authentic and relevant to my professional endeavors. The reasons I reject invitations are for the following reasons:

1. No picture or picture is an icon or company logo. I’m looking to connect with “real” people, not with people with no faces or inanimate objects. I value relationships with people, not with entities. If I want to follow your company, I will do so under the “Companies” section of Linkedin. I can not know you or trust you if I can not see you. I need to put a face to a name.

2. Incomplete or sparse profile. If you can’t take the time to list your work history, educational background, and other information that helps me learn who you really are and what you are all about, why do I need you in my network? If I know nothing about you, I certainly can’t do anything for you, nor you for me.

3. Few connections and no recommendations. I am immediately suspicious of invitations from people who have few if no connections. Such a profile screams “SCAMMER.” If you are just starting your professional career, you should at least be connected with your fellow classmates and friends. If no former supervisor, colleague, teacher, or friend has recommended you, why should I? Because accepting you into my network represents at least a tacit recommendation of you to the other people I am connected to.

4. Your invitation reads, “I’d like to add you to my professional network on Linkedin.” If you can’t take 2 minutes to write, ‘Hey Mike, I know we don’t know each other, but I think we have some mutual interests (or connections) and I would value you in my network,” then I won’t take 1 second to click “accept.”

5. You lied about how you know me. If your Linkedin invite says your are a former colleague, or classmate, or we have done business together…and we haven’t…well, that’s just a bad way to start a new relationship.

6. Your connection invitation was preceded by an InMail which was essentially a sales pitch for your company or products/services. See #1 above.

7. Your profile title says you are a “visionary” or you have 10,000+ connections, which intimates that i must be a dolt, because I have no vision and so fewer connections than you, and obviously would love to be one of your groupies. Really? Please spare me the privilege of being in your network.

Be you. Be real. One good connection is better than hundreds (or thousands) of random names.

The problem most people have with Linked In is fear of rejection. Every six months or so linked in restrict my account because I’ve generated too many “I don’t know him” responses from people I don’t know (but would like to). It takes a few days to convince someone in California that I am for real and not a total nutter and then I get my system re-set.

That is about as bad as it gets. I never worry about people not connecting, that is their business and I respect any one’s right to privacy. Very rarely someone de-links from me, I never know who (I only see the number of connections fall). Linked in is a harmless place!

I don’t brag about my connections for the reasons Michael gives- it’s both annoying and demeaning.The reason I have lots of connections is because my job is to get to 1.2m employers who don’t have pensions so restricting my sphere of influence is pointless. Telling people they are part of my trophy cupboard is counter-productive.

250,000 people have read Michael’s article, if even 1% of that number read it on my blog I will be surprised. But if someone reads this article and as a result accepts my invitation to link in …and if that leads to one more person joining Pension Play Pen Group or visiting http://www.pensionplaypen.com or learning about pensions from http://www.firstactuarial.co.uk, I’m a happy man.

The same goes for linked in endorsements , saying happy birthday, congratulating people on their new job, liking comments , retweeting, re-blogging and generally spreading the word about what is good,

So 9/10 Michael, I just wish you’d used my tile not yours!



About henry tapper

Founder of the Pension PlayPen,, partner of Stella, father of Olly . I am the Pension Plowman
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